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My body. And for those who didn't get that?
I don't need and I don't want a red button, or a green button, or a glow-in-the-dark smiley face button for that matter. Which also means that I don't need to be thought of as 'sitting on the fence, or undecided as to whether I'll wear a button', or 'maybe I can be talked into wearing this button or that button or' - you know what? Just no. I don't want a button therefore there shall be no button on me.
I don't need someone else's validation of my body to be worth it, I know I'm worthy and I KNOW I'm worth it. And I choose to allow only the ones I want within a certain amount of personal space. My space. My choice. Nothing 'liberated' or 'repressed' or 'open' or 'fun-loving' or whatever. If you ask to touch something I don't want you to, I'll say no. No flames coming out of my mouth, no smoke from my ears. Just no, simple right? Done it before, I'll do it again. Now it doesn't mean that others would or would not feel uncomfortable by the same question asked at them, lots of people might - not going to argue that, I can understand it, completely. But I'm not talking about them, I'm talking about me. My live journal, I can be selfish like that.
And if you just touch without asking? Well, I have certain almost-instinctual reactions to that too. That normally end up with someone saying 'ow' and me thinking 'oops'. Again, it's who I am. And for the record, just to differentiate, there are nothing wrong with compliments. I give them when I feel something is worth complementing, and I receive them happily from others who give them when they think something of mine is worth complimenting. My words, my choices, my thoughts, my looks. It feels good for me, not going to deny it. Compliments however are by and far verbal, no touching needed.
On the other hand, I absolutely will not condemn those who choose to wear red *no you can't touch* or green *yes you can touch* buttons, or the ones with the glow-in-the-dark smiley faces for that matter. Why? Because they are choosing for themselves what they want for their own body. Their body, their choice, their levels of comfort, their boundaries, their fun, their lives. It's not my place to judge or to tell others how to live their lives, just - you know.
Don't tell me how to live mine.
*This is in no way to be taken as a political stand, or a call to revolution, or as any thing more than my thoughts and feelings typed up onto a computer screen. Feel free to ignore.*
MY BODY.
I don't need and I don't want a red button, or a green button, or a glow-in-the-dark smiley face button for that matter. Which also means that I don't need to be thought of as 'sitting on the fence, or undecided as to whether I'll wear a button', or 'maybe I can be talked into wearing this button or that button or' - you know what? Just no. I don't want a button therefore there shall be no button on me.
I don't need someone else's validation of my body to be worth it, I know I'm worthy and I KNOW I'm worth it. And I choose to allow only the ones I want within a certain amount of personal space. My space. My choice. Nothing 'liberated' or 'repressed' or 'open' or 'fun-loving' or whatever. If you ask to touch something I don't want you to, I'll say no. No flames coming out of my mouth, no smoke from my ears. Just no, simple right? Done it before, I'll do it again. Now it doesn't mean that others would or would not feel uncomfortable by the same question asked at them, lots of people might - not going to argue that, I can understand it, completely. But I'm not talking about them, I'm talking about me. My live journal, I can be selfish like that.
And if you just touch without asking? Well, I have certain almost-instinctual reactions to that too. That normally end up with someone saying 'ow' and me thinking 'oops'. Again, it's who I am. And for the record, just to differentiate, there are nothing wrong with compliments. I give them when I feel something is worth complementing, and I receive them happily from others who give them when they think something of mine is worth complimenting. My words, my choices, my thoughts, my looks. It feels good for me, not going to deny it. Compliments however are by and far verbal, no touching needed.
On the other hand, I absolutely will not condemn those who choose to wear red *no you can't touch* or green *yes you can touch* buttons, or the ones with the glow-in-the-dark smiley faces for that matter. Why? Because they are choosing for themselves what they want for their own body. Their body, their choice, their levels of comfort, their boundaries, their fun, their lives. It's not my place to judge or to tell others how to live their lives, just - you know.
Don't tell me how to live mine.
*This is in no way to be taken as a political stand, or a call to revolution, or as any thing more than my thoughts and feelings typed up onto a computer screen. Feel free to ignore.*
